And We’re Back!!

After a WHOLE year of not posting, we are officially back online thanks to my wonderful hubby! We really didn’t know what to post, how to make everything look right, or how to get the word out about our site. Hopefully, with help from Douglas, we will be posting more.

I was nervous about getting back online and opening up about everything that goes on in our lives. One day, I was relating a funny story to Douglas about my day and he said, “Why don’t you put that on your blog?” Every few days he would mention something else that should go on the blog. As a result, my confidence to go back to blogging increased! Confidence is a huge deal!

Confidence is a learned behavior

As I started thinking about confidence, I began to look at my daughter. I had taken the kids to reading group. After craft time, I noticed Parker wasn’t playing with the other kids. When I asked her why she wasn’t playing she said, “I really don’t feel like it.” Now, if you know my daughter at all, you would know that this is not normal for her. I left it alone until we got out to the car, shrugging it off as her being tired. However, God kept telling me to talk to her about it again. So, while I was getting the kids strapped in, I brought it up again. “Parker, why didn’t you want to play with the kids?” She said that she was too embarrassed. I asked why and she told, “My craft wasn’t as good as everyone else’s.” Her craft looked just as good as everyone else’s in the group, but all she could see is the imperfections.

As I watched my daughter more the next few days, I realized how often she thought she wasn’t good enough. Then I realized how often I would say to Douglas or to my parents that I thought I wasn’t good enough. She was learning this from me!

We moms often look down on ourselves. We compare ourselves to the other mothers who LOOK like they have it all together. As a result, we become unconfident in our looks, in our parenting abilities, and our marriages. “Confidence isn’t about walking into a room thinking you are better than everyone, it’s walking in, not having to compare yourself to anyone at all.” – 25 Bible Verses about Confidence. Theodore Roosevelt said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.”

Conclusion

We need to teach our children and ourselves, that confidence should not be in comparing ourselves to others, but in knowing God. We are all different, with different abilities, and that is okay. God made all of us “fearfully and wonderfully.” (Psalm 139:14).